The first stage of every male-female relationship that is bound to end in love is dating. Dating is sweet. For the many parts, lovers have the most fun of their lives. They spend time together on the phone for hours; they chat and chat until one falls asleep. It continues on and on and on.
However, watch out guys, not every lady is made the same and your dating experience will therefore not be the same. Here are five girls that are hard to date and how to cope with the complexities they bring.
- The lady with low self-esteem
The lady with low self-esteem could be one who looks down on herself in many ways. she thinks she’s too fat, too slim,not intelligent enough, comes from too poor a background, etc. They believe everyone else is better than them. They see nothing of value in themselves. They speak all the negative things about themselves.
It is complicated dating such people because when they see you with another lady who they perceive to be more beautiful or of a better figure than they have, they begin to suspect that you’re cheating on them.
If you ever find yourself dating such a lady, your best bet is to assume the role of a “motivational speaker.” You will need all the arsenals in your motivational toolkit to make her feel worthy.
- The extreme “I know my rights” lady
While I don’t subscribe to men maltreating their female partners, dating girls who thinks she’s on top of the world, knows her rights and takes her rights to the extreme are a headache.
Ladies like this know all you should do to make them feel like a woman, but do nothing to make you feel like a man. They command you to do this and that and offer no help. To them, they have nothing in their Bible that says, “Women, submit to your husbands.” The word “submission” to them is derogatory and against women’s rights.
If you’re already hooked up with such a lady, chances are she has low self-esteem and she feels her only way to be heard is to show herself and make noise. The best way out is to give her the confidence she needs. Appreciate her for the little things she does. With time, she will respect you without reservation.
- The lady with no friend
Such ladies often say, “People are not trustworthy these days.” It’s the funniest statement I hear people make. Those who believe others are not worth their trust are largely untrustworthy themselves. Beyond their being untrustworthy, it becomes your sole responsibility to make them happy. Truth is, you can never meet someone else’s emotional needs all alone. It is too much of an emotional burden to carry. You will need to play the role of her lady friends; to talk about all the girl-to-girl talk. Can you really do all that?
What do you do if you are dating someone of this category already? Encourage them to make friends. Take them out to social functions where they can get to connect with others. Assure them of your trust.
- The lady with too many friends
The lady with no friend is just as difficult to date as the lady who is friends with everyone and their dogs in the whole city. Such women believe their value is found in the kind of people they know. Thus they can count all the “big people” they know in town. They can be on the phone for hours without end just talking to friends and you become a secondary matter to them.
You share her with their numerous friends. For such girls, you could schedule to have some time together and at the last minute, they could call to cancel the date for a friend’s party or ‘pressing’ issue.
The best way to deal with such ladies is to assure them of your love. A lot of such women may have received little love as children. So as they grow up, they tend to look for acceptance, a sense of belonging and love in many people. That may account for the numerous friends they have.
- The girl who got cheated on in a just previously ended relationship
She is still nursing a heartbreak and the scar from the previous relationship is as fresh in her mind as though it happened yesterday. The challenge with dating these ladies is they are overly suspicious of you. Every move of yours will be questioned and your next move will be expected to follow patterns from their past hurtful relationship.
You have no right looking at another lady twice if they are with you.
For these ladies, you need to be as transparent as possible. It won’t be too much giving them the passwords to your gadgets and even social media pages; that is one of the potent ways you can help them reduce their suspicion of you, and for you to gain their trust.
I wish you a happy dating!